For the seasons that
changed your body
and your life.
Pregnancy. Postpartum. Infertility. Loss. The world says you should be glowing. The reality is often so much heavier than that. Whoever you are, whatever your body is navigating, you do not have to white-knuckle this alone.
You went back to work days after your loss because there was no PTO for grief nobody could see.
Someone told you “you’ll have another” and you had to smile and nod.
You love this baby. And you also do not recognize yourself anymore.
You are holding everything together for everyone else while falling apart on the inside.
The birth system called you “mom” the entire time and nobody once asked your name.
If the world told you to be glowing and you are anything but.
Postpartum rage. Intrusive thoughts. Bonding that didn’t happen instantly. All of it is real and all of it has a name.
You are not broken. Your body and brain are responding to something real. We start there.
in ADHD moms.
Almost no one screens for it.
Miscarriage. Stillbirth. The loss the world decided didn’t count. It counted.
Gender-affirming perinatal care. No explaining yourself. No bracing for a mistake.
The grief nobody brings flowers for. The cycle that didn’t work. The decision you’re still carrying quietly.
Whatever you lost, however early, however quietly. It was real. You are allowed to fall apart about it here.
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This is not what they told you it would be.
“You should be so happy right now.”Cool. I will let your nervous system know.
Postpartum rage
Not just sadness. Sometimes a white-hot anger at your partner, the dog, the noise, the world. This is a common symptom of postpartum anxiety. It has a name. It is treatable.
Intrusive thoughts
Scary images of harm coming to the baby. They do not mean you are a bad parent. They mean your anxiety is high. We can work with this directly using EMDR and Brainspotting.
Birth trauma
When the birth did not go to plan. When you felt unsafe or unheard. Your body remembers the fear even if everyone says “at least the baby is healthy.”
Not feeling bonded yet
The movies lied. Bonding is not always instant. The shame you feel about not feeling what you were supposed to feel is treatable too.
Common, real, and not your fault.
Every one of these is more common than anyone admits. They just don’t get talked about.
Perinatal ADHD
Pregnancy hormones can temporarily mask ADHD. Postpartum, when those hormones drop, ADHD symptoms can slam back harder than before. The overwhelm, the executive dysfunction, the shame of feeling like you cannot keep up. It is neurological, not personal. Almost no one is screening for it.
Matrescence
There is a clinical word for what you are going through that almost no one uses. Matrescence is the profound psychological, neurological, and identity transformation of becoming a parent. It is as significant as adolescence. Your brain is literally rewiring. That disorientation is not a crisis. It is a process.
Reproductive coercion
Being pressured or manipulated into a pregnancy, continuation, or termination. It does not always look obvious. If someone else had more say over your reproductive body than you did, that is trauma. It has a name. We can work with it directly.
When the system erases you
Trans men, nonbinary and gender-expansive people who give birth navigate a perinatal system that was not built for them. Being misgendered by your provider compounds. It can make the birth itself traumatic in ways that go unrecognized. You do not have to explain your gender to receive care here.
Non-birthing parents grieve too.
You were handed a clipboard and told to be strong. Your grief did not come with a protocol. Nobody asked how you were doing at the six-week checkup. You do not have to earn the right to need support.
If you are the partner still standing
You kept the household running. You showed up. Somewhere in all of that, your own grief got filed under later. Later has a way of becoming never. This space is for you too.
If nobody has asked how you are doing
Everyone asked about the baby. Everyone asked about your partner. You became invisible in the story of your own loss. That invisibility is its own wound.
How this works.
No clipboard. No performance. No explaining yourself from scratch every session.
We normalize first
Before we do anything else, we put your experience in context. What your hormones are doing. What your nervous system is doing. You are not broken.
We process what is stuck
Using EMDR and Brainspotting we work directly with the grief, the birth trauma, the fear, the images that keep flashing. Not just talking about the fear. Helping your body release it.
You lead. Always.
You are the expert in your own life. Babies are welcome in session. Show up however you need to show up. Un-showered. Crying. Feeding. All of it is fine.
You do not have to perform wellness to be here.
You do not have to perform anything.
Come as you are
Show up in pajamas. Un-showered. Crying in the car before you log on. There is no right way to show up here.
Babies welcome
Childcare should never be a barrier to therapy. Bounce, feed, hold. Your whole life is welcome in the room.
No toxic positivity
I will not tell you to be grateful. I will sit with you in what is actually hard without rushing you out of it.
Gender-affirming by default
Your pronouns are used correctly from session one. You do not have to educate me or brace for a mistake.
Let’s give you a place
to just be you.
Not just a parent. Not just a patient.
Send a message. I read every one personally.
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